I get that my style of communication is often more forward that not, especially for the more laid-back west coasters I live with over here. My own sibling often gives me feedback that my style is harsh for him to deal with sometimes - but it always comes back to intent. The people that I consider to be in my inner circle have built that trust up with me - I know that no matter how difficult or shocking something they may say is, without a doubt their intention is good and genuine. I have to assume that to begin with. My brother and I always clarify this with each other now as we've gotten better at communicating as "adults". I love my family and close friends - and I know they love me. I want to protect and take care of my family and close friends - and I know they want to protect and take care of me. It's interesting the kinds of variety of communication one can have when it comes to giving and receiving feedback - and the kinds of roles people prefer to play.
Giving Feedback: Everyone wants to play the role of the person giving the feedback. Unfortunately, usually that is a right that has to be earned with trust. Of course, even with a trusting relationship, there are better ways of giving feedback and not-so-great ones. I'd suggest spending a little time framing the feedback conversation before giving it.
Framing: is to set the mood, the stage, the tone for how the conversation will go.