My last post was my best 3 AM attempt to synthesize all of the voices and put into one holistic map of what’s going on locally in Seattle.  We as humans, myself included, are bombarded with noise all day long - the billboard signs, the yard signs, the Facebook and Twitter feeds, emails, and yes, even getting unsolicited text messages from candidates (not cool = Tammy Morales).  It’s increasingly difficult to find that quiet thinking time. It’s very difficult to figure out who has what incentives, why are they pushing a particular candidate (or not), and what is most important for me and my community.  
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My last post upset some people - even upset some friends.  Hopefully, we can disagree and still like each other.

Here are five additional thoughts on the topic of Ari Hoffman and Civic Discourse:

1. Public servants need to practice stewardship.  Public servants that hold office should hold the idea of stewardship as a core principle; it should be central to the why they get up every day to do the work they do for the community.  Stewardship. Reminder, Mirriam-Webster defines stewardship as “the careful and responsible management of something entrusted to one's care stewardship of resources.”  Resources like: publicly funded dollars, buildings, roads, the environment, and even people who reside in or work for that particular community.  Ari Hoffman has demonstrated through action, not just words, the principle of stewardship and discipline I expect to see from those that serve the community.  Some examples:
   1. Vandals caused over $230,000 in damages to a local Jewish cemetery, including strewn needles and bottles.  As a board member of this cemetery, Ari went above and beyond. He raised awareness. He went to the news for help. He went to the city for help.  He still has not gotten the support he originally sought. “Hoffman did share photos with KIRO 7 as proof that the cemeteries have been disrespected, needles near tombstones, feces discarded near them or simply left on top of grave plots. He also said empty bottles and discarded drug paraphernalia led him to believe some people were partying near the plots, “people are doing drugs off the tombstones.”  Most people forget the dead and elderly - what I see is a community and a man that shares a forgotten kind of respect for those that came before us.  Ari has a kind of stewardship that I want for our city; someone who will fight for everyone, even those who no longer have a voice to fight for themselves, like the human dead among us.
   2. On safe injection sites - a very political topic in Seattle - again Ari has demonstrated the kind of stewardship I want to see. Yes - there have been many studies that may prove that they work, and there may be a lot of benefits.  And yes, there are studies that show that they may not work (as in a new study in the International Study of Drug Policy). It’s still not actually clear if they work or not given inherent complexities. While seen as completely flabbergasting, Ari Hoffman is doing the right thing by pushing back on safe injection sites.  We should be questioning if what people want is a magic pill to solve the challenges and is that best magic pill, safe injection sites? Who wants the safe injection site down the street from where they live?  Who wants it in the neighborhood where playgrounds, children, and families strive to thrive? Key stewardship point: Ari Hoffman went even further by taking personal time and resources to go check out first hand to understand what safe injection sites are and whether it may or may not make sense.  He went to San Diego. He went to Vancouver, BC. Ari took personal time, and personal resources to go learn about the issue. Has any other candidate done that?   And yes, there are always at least three sides to any story - what he demonstrated again and again, is his willingness to do the hard work to think for himself. He speaks truth to power - even though many of us don’t want to hear it.  That’s stewardship. We may not all agree on his point of views or what he saw or the story he tells based on what he saw, we all have to agree that his kind of stewardship is what the community needs.
2. Is Ari Hoffman conservative? No and Yes. If you mean, what some people call “right-wing, MAGA and NRA loving Republican?  No. Conservative meaning preferring a sober and evidence-based, practical approach to finding solutions to problems?  Yes. How did this idea of Ari Hoffman being an ultra-conservative come about?
   1. The Stranger was founded by Tim Keck, who had previously co-founded the satirical newspaper The Onion, and cartoonist James Sturm. Its first issue came out on September 23, 1991. It calls itself "Seattle's Only Newspaper," an expression of its disdain for Seattle's two dailies (the Seattle Times and the now-defunct print edition of the Seattle Post-Intelligencer) and The Stranger's main rival, the Seattle Weekly. The paper regularly covers Seattle City Council politics.  The Stranger is generally very liberal and progressive in its perspectives.  The Stranger has positioned him as "ultra-conservative" - and unfortunately, people have taken that to be truth without actually looking to see if it is true.
   2. Ari Hoffman also has accepted all and ANY invitation for an interview.  This is NOT a politically accepted thing to do, especially if you are a candidate running for office.  Surprising to me, because in theory, isn’t it a good thing to be willing to have a conversation with every person (no matter what their beliefs are)?  What I’ve learned is that if you’re running for office in Seattle, you decline an interviews with the NRA for example. You decline to even have a conversation.  Ari didn’t. He thought for himself and went, that doesn’t make any sense. Isn’t it a good thing to have honest conversations, despite differences?  
   3. The topic of safe injection sites again.  In district two of Seattle, one of the most racial diverse, progressive districts here, most people are very liberal and very progressive - leaning towards “democratic socialism”.  It’s literally “not cool” to question if safe injection sites actually work. As one person wrote on my facebook page regarding Ari, “he is actively sharing opinions and his new video that is very much out of alignment on current best practices and research based approaches for homelessness. “  It hasn’t been proven yet.  How many of the folks that support safe injection sites want one  across the street from where they live? Then is the idea to support progressive ideas as long as they are placed “somewhere else”, not in our neighborhood?  Let’s be honest here.
3. Civic discourse is when people communicate with one another about the political, social, cultural or economic issues that their community face to begin a conversation or debate.  Today, in Seattle and beyond, most of us are afraid and wary about sharing our true thoughts about anything. A lot of people are hard-wired with all kinds of triggers and hence, a ready-to-wear angry emotional reaction to whomever or whatever source made the disagreeable statement.  This is not how civic discourse happens. We’re Democrat or Republican - ready to shut the other side down without even trying out a thought experiment to really consider what they are trying to say. Hey, remember, most of us don’t have all the right words and don’t know how to say something “the right way”.  We’re all trying. And while many of us are being re-trained to embrace diversity - diversity of color, race, sexual orientation, and more - most of us are absolutely hardwired to distance ourselves and reject ideological diversity. What’s wrong with learning more about the other very different person? What’s wrong with meeting with a die-hard NRA loving person to share disagreements and to talk about it?  What’s wrong with asking the “stupid question”? In business, it’s supposedly encouraged. What about in community and in politics?
4. We all live in bubbles.  There have been warnings here and there that say especially because of media and the social media algorithms, we are primed to exist in “bubbles” of only similar ideology and like-minded folks we agree with.  Every “like” in Facebook means you’ll see even more posts from that person or entity you already agree with. How do we combat bubbles? We have to actively seek opinions, media, and posts that are different than the ones you agree with. For example: Are you a die-hard Democrat?  Follow some die-hard Republicans.  
5. Character matters when I vote.  Safety for me is top of mind because of all the violence my family has personally experienced in the past couple of years.  I’m also looking at behaviors that indicate character. I’m looking at actions that demonstrate discipline and respect. I’m looking to find commonalities - like family orientation and having had children.  I’m looking at length of journey to date - I do NOT want someone who’s in the moonlight years of their career, I want candidates who have some life experience, have some good work experience, and are looking to leave a mark still in the world.  I want someone who will get up again and again after they’ve fallen. I want candidates that will speak truth to power, speak truth period, even if it is not the “PC” thing to say or do. Again, this is why, I’m voting for Ari Hoffman in District 2.  He’s a little flamboyant in his delivery and presentation. He’s a little bit like a bull in a China shop with his political skills. He’s like a gorilla who’s charging through brick walls and bashing down twine that’s in his way. That’s who I want in Seattle Council - fighting for safety, fighting for respect of our green spaces and parks, fighting for a little bit of common sense and practicality in finding the right kind of humane solutions for everyone.

At the end of the day, whether a person is old/young, white/black/yellow/green, Democrat/Republican, white collar/blue collar, citizen / immigrant - we are actually far more alike than different.  We are all human. If we start with that as the foundational place for any discussion, any disagreement, any kind of civic discourse - we’ll find that generally: 

• We ALL want and consider ourselves to be good people.
• We all want safe spaces for ourselves, our children, and our families.
• We all want safe, clean neighborhoods.
• We all want better lives for the poor, sick, and weak.
• We all want access to decent schools, education, and a way to grow.
• We all want access to reliable public/private transportation, roads, and more.
• We all want access to affordable, good homes.

We are all human.  Likely, we all want the same things for ourselves and each other.  Let’s start there, in the name of humanity -- and then work to figure out the details, the different approaches and ideas, and get there, together. 

​--Arry

I actually pushed hard for several weeks in February, March and April of this year about running for Seattle City Council this year.  Yes, while very pregnant with #theQuinoa.  The timing did not work out.  I have political interests for the future, yes.  

Promised on our podcast episode of Windshield Time, "Ray Dalio Report, Poopcoin, and Local Politics" that I'd share this, so here it is. 

Why now?  Here's what we've experienced as a family, all in the last 1.5 - 2 years that's caused my strong attention to our local political scene in Seattle:

1. My husband was held up at gunpoint by four (4), yes that's FOUR armed young men near our home.  You can imagine the horror when my husband gave me that update, waking me up in the middle of the night.  HORROR.  Complete horror.
2. My mother-in-law, aged 70+, was mugged, in the evening getting off the bus-line near our home.  Two young women, in fact, pushed her down, took her purse, and then... kicked her even more as she lay there.  She was very bruised up.  (WHY kick an old lady when she's down?)
3. Our home was completely burglarized.  They took pretty much everything you can think of - including shoes, Seahawks jerseys, and packed it all up in our own bags/suitcases. 
4. Homeless people camping out in our child's daycare playground.  No one wants to imagine strangers and homeless people camping out at the daycare.
5. Increased visual vandalism EVERYWHERE - every crevice, sign, highways, underpasses, and then some is seemingly covered in graffiti or trash in general.  This is a beautiful city - one I fell in love with almost 18 years ago when I moved to this city.  It was the cleanest, friendliest, and most amazing city I had ever seen. 

Here's what I think.  Those in positions of public service, do not seem to understand that public service is about stewardship and taking careful care of our communities.  I am very skeptical that many who are in Seattle City Council positions or that are running for Seattle City Council positions are doing so because they want to serve - and more for the $100,000+ salary that it comes with.  Many are running for the pay-raise.  Maybe some have run for the political platform and access.  What we need is stewardship.  Stewardship. Stewardship. Stewardship.  Servant leadership.  "The careful and responsible management of something entrusted to one's care" is how Merriam-Webster defines Stewardship.  Do a job so carefully that it's left in an even better state than when you originally were entrusted with it.  As Seattle, that's what is missing.

So, there are endorsements and voter guides being published left and right.  Liberal.  Conservative.  Facebook.  Media.  Pamphlets.  I took what I have seen so far, and threw it into a spreadsheet.  Excel.  For transparency, I added a column for where I am leaning towards today - it may change by the time I fill out the ballet.  The lens I share/vote from, is in this post above.  I want to be able to safely take my children to the playground.  I do not want to worry about my family's safety.  I want to see the active stewardship of our city - by the City Council and everyone in the community.  I found and like this resource that seems to easily list the data on all the candidates here.  

Another great tool to help you figure out who you want to vote for is Align Vote.  Here's the link. 

Here's my spreadsheet, along with my thoughts:

My current vote-leanings and thoughts:

• King County Prop 1: Parks, Recreation, Trails and Open Space Levy - Approve, even though I do not trust that we have "stewardship" of these funds happening.
• Port of Seattle Commissioner Pos 2 - Sam Cho
• Port of Seattle Commissioner Pos 5 - Fred Felleman
• Seattle City Council District 1 - Philip Tavel.  I personally believe that Lisa Herbold has not, and still does not demonstrate stewardship. I like Phil's talk of being equitable and effective.
• Seattle City Council District 2 - Ari Hoffman.  This is the only candidate that has actively and proactively demonstrated he has the discipline and stewardship I want in our city council.  He's got admirable grit, too - for literally having been picked on, and targeted in his campaigning.  I respect his tenacity and perseverance.  Resilience.  Mark Solomon, seemingly is a great candidate (in theory) - my spidey senses pick up that he's tired and not hungry enough to do the due diligence it takes to do the job thoughtfully.  Reminds me a little too much of Bruce Harrell (who I like as a person, and his prior service years.  He's tired and hence, retiring.).
• Seattle City Council District 3 - Pat Murakami.  Pragmatic.  Thoughtful responses who has a chance at looking at the community holistically from all sides.  Ami Nguyen and Eagan Orion seem great too - I am worried that their experience puts a heavy bias on them.  When I was doing my research to potentially run, I heard Ami was also pregnant like myself.  If so, huge props to her and her family for stepping up and actually running.
• Seattle City Council District 4 - Alec Pederson.  I appreciate that he cares about accountability.  I care about Stewardship.  I agree with Shaun Scott, that the taxes we currently have are very regressive.  It's true.  
• Seattle City Council District 5 - Ann Davison Sattler.  Caring about children, and low-income children wins my vote.  Society's top priority should be protecting our most innocent, future.
• Seattle City Council District 6 - Jay Fathi.  A collaborative approach that's about solving and delivering makes sound pragmatic sense.
• Seattle City Council District 7 - James Donaldson. I like his answer most, "Seattle birthed many of the greatest innovations, ground-breaking discoveries, and some of the largest companies, yet cannot meet basic civic needs."  I also like the idea of Jim Pugel.  His experience as a police chief and concerns about public safety.  Public safety is my top concern.  I like Michael George, too because his work experience matches up with, "Balancing inclusivity with neighborhood livability".    
• Seattle Proposition 1 Public Library Levy - Approve, even though I do not trust that we have "stewardship" of these funds happening.

There it is.  You may strongly disagree or agree with my votes or thoughts.  Always happy to chat and learn more - hopefully, via a mutually respectful conversation.  

​--Arry 

Recognize the people in the image above?

Yes.  That's my husband, Dae (aka @LuggageDonkey) on the left, me on the right.  

Back when we had just started dating, my husband introduced me to the idea of "windshield time".  Knowing is half the battle - knowing the idea of windshield time allows us to intentionally use it with each other.  Dae uses it to catch up and bond with his aging father (who is now 79 years old).  I use it with colleagues to prepare for meetings when driving together to a meeting.

I never thought I'd actually work with my husband... and here we are.  We've argued and fought, and battled our way to actually LAUNCHING the pilot podcast episode this week.  WHOO-HOO!  I wish you could have seen his face on Tuesday - Dae was so happy.  He was beaming about the beautiful weather, the view of Mount Rainier that was magnificent as we were driving to a meeting. We're on anchor.fm now. Check us out - give it a listen, send us some good mojo/feedback/ratings if you can to help us out. Thank you so much! 

Can't believe we actually got this done.  Whew! 

Here's the link: https://anchor.fm/windshieldtime206.

For my next post, I'll work on a list of quick early lessons that I've picked up in working with my husband. We both have strong opinions and personalities - and we are married, live together, and have two very young children together.  We're both sleep deprived.  That makes for an interesting mix.  

Hope you like it.  

Hugs,
Arry 
P.S. Second pilot episode of Windshield Time going live today! 

I saw this image fly by my eyes at about 330AM this morning - and I saved it as a reminder that I want to share/write about this... A LOT MORE ABOUT THIS.

Many of us humans, we have our dark down days.  Some have them more than others.  At my worst, I think I did not leave my room/bed/apartment for weeks.  Some times, the idea of being alive is just so exhausting.  Some times, I am able to push myself into being somewhat functional, going through the motions of a fully productive day - only doing what is absolutely necessary to not let anything blow up.  Other times, I've written long goodbye letters to my husband and family - only to "wake up" and throw it away.  I even daydreamed about getting in the car, alone, and driving endlessly on the highway to just go away from this surreal non-reality reality I was living in. 

I had a really tough time with postpartum depression with our first baby.  Really bad.  I had no idea how bad it was at the time.  Only looking back today, do I realize how deep in the depths of velvety despair I was living in day to day, night after night, month after month.  To help myself with this newest baby who was recently born, I did things differently. 

Five Things I'm Doing Differently with Our Second Baby to Avoid Postpartum Depression: 

1. Proactive Communication (before giving birth) - I told my OBGYN, my husband, friends, and more about how challenging postpartum depression was for me with our first baby.  With more people aware, they can help me when they see me teetering on the edge.  Recently, I woke up.  For some reason, everything felt so difficult.  I sat down on the couch ready to feed our newborn, and tears just started rolling down my face.  My husband looked at me and said, "go put on something comfortable to go outside with.  I'll drop you and the baby off at the mall and you can walk around a little while I do this quick 30 minute meeting this morning."  I started to object - and then something in me said, just do it. The day turned out to be really great because my husband was aware.
2. Lots of Photos - while pregnant, I put up photos all of over the home of wonderful memories, family, and friends.  It's seriously made a difference.  When I'm home, the photos are constant reminders of good memories, loving faces, and comfort that keep me from falling into that dark place too much.
3. Therapy - I see this Phd psychologist/leadership coach quarterly.  Todd.  When he saw me pregnant, in my second trimester, he asked, "did you get postpartum depression with the first pregnancy"?  I said, "yes, it was really bad".  Considering what I was going through last year, he strongly advised me to get a therapist ASAP to start working weekly on building some strong mental foundational tools before the baby was born.  Oh my goodness, SO HELPFUL.  He even looked up a few folks for me to call to find the right fit. 
4. Breathing Room & Forgiveness in Breastfeeding - For those that have not breastfed a newborn baby before, it's REALLY hard.  It's hard to produce the milk - enough milk.  It's hard on the body physically.  There's a lot of pain associated with it.  There's a lot of stress related to it knowing that this amazing adorable innocent human life form depends on you for it.  There's sacrifice - the sleep, the social events, what I can or cannot eat/drink, and then some.  This time around with this baby, we're going with "fed is best".  I've been supplementing with formula from the day he was born.  With our first baby, I felt so ashamed to even go there, so I pushed and pushed to have him exclusively breastfed until about 6 months of age.  I still feel the shame with not producing as much milk as with our first baby - and at the same time, I feel a tiny bit happier and freer.  It's a weird discombobulating feeling.  My husband has been reminding me, fed is best.  Whole generations of humans are and have been exclusively formula fed.  The baby will be okay. I don't know if it's the same for other mothers - my self worth and self esteem daily seems to be based on how breastfeeding is going that day.  
5. Indulging Myself with Food and Sleep - to my heart's content.  It took about a full month before I even allowed my husband to take care of our newborn ALL NIGHT LONG while I slept in the other bed with our toddler.  A full month.  For some reason, I have this innate feeling that it is fully my own responsibility to stay up all night, every night, with our newborn.  I feel an immense amount of guilt letting my husband do that.  I've been learning to let go - with coaxing and coaching from both my husband and therapist.  Sleep is amazing - milk flows so luxuriously and freely after a night of good sleep.  Same goes with when I've had some delicious food/beverage.  Oh, and this time, proactively recruiting help from not just family - but also the community has helped.  I now know what a MEAL TRAIN is!!! 

Having a baby - it's like the whole family getting hit by a bus.  For the mother who just gave birth, it's like getting hit by the bus a few more times.  The physical and mental demands are big - and not knowing any better, I really struggled with recovery with our first baby.  This second baby has been easier in so many ways, and more difficult in other (like having survived the unplanned c-section, that got infected... more on that some other time.)  

Net-net?  
Ask for help.  
Accept and embrace the help.  
Don't add more stress than is really needed.  
​Eat/sleep as much as you can.  
Have strong mental and visual anchors to stay strong daily.

Arry 

Bar Rescue has become an integral part of my morning routine with the Quinoa in the past several weeks since he's been born.

Bar Rescue.  I kind of laugh right now realizing how much time I've spent half-watching/listening to this show.  Maybe Quinoa has been absorbing some of the lessons.

At first, it started as this random, mindless thing that was (very un-seriously) randomly on one day when I was feeding our newborn - that I kept on watching day after day after day.  I don't watch it on weekends.  Now having seen at least 20 episodes to date, there's definitely a formula and pattern - and I've extracted the takeaways for you here.  These takeaways are actually applicable to the world of entrepreneurship and startup, too.

8 Lessons I've Learned from Bar Rescue:
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1. Leadership is Key: There's got to be a clear leader.  A leader worthy of following.  In the vice business of bars and alcohol, the leader cannot be drunk.  The leader has to be an effective manager - or the leader has to give the proper authority to another manager to run the day to day operations of the business.  This is probably the most important piece that Jon Taffer (the star of the show) will work on fixing in every episode - and everything else is details.  No leadership, no business worth saving (or having).
2. Consistency in Vision: Have a clear vision that is consistent throughout the business - from everything in the product served, the brand, and the service.  
3. Know and Serve the Market: Know your market - who is the ultimate customer you are serving and what do THEY like, want, and enjoy.  Serve the market.
4. Have Clear Processes and Clear Bottlenecks: Enable the business to thrive.  Anywhere your employees are getting stuck, focus on creating or enabling a solution to remove that bottleneck.  Investment in creating a great work environment that enables employees to thrive is important - skimp here, and the business suffers.
5. Don't Cut Corners: Literally, do NOT cut corners in the quality of the product and service or it will bite you in the ass.  It's the leader's responsibility always - to ensure that the quality bar is known and met EVERY SINGLE DAY.  Clean work areas.  Proper procedures are known and followed.  Safety of customers and employees is tablestakes.
6. Team Over Me: If anyone on the team is not willing to be part of the team, cut them as soon as possible.  One person can pull the effectiveness of an entire team down.  Hell no.  It's the leader's responsibility (or the manager's) to ensure the team is made up of team players.
7. Customer Service FTW: The leader is there to ensure the employees are happy, safe, and thriving.  The employees (and leader) focus on happy customers and clients.
8. Repeat, Consistency: Have a vision.  Be consistent in all matters of execution from hiring, to the product and service.  

And looking at it - yea, these are lessons that also are core to running any business well.  

There you have it.  Bar Rescue. 

​--Arry 

Nice chart, huh?  BYND baby.

My husband has a huge influence on me.  I think I have a huge influence on him.  That's marriage...  and he's really into investing, money, markets, all things business and finance.  

I've always been pretty passive, especially when it comes to finances: 

• I don't look at the stock performance daily, even weekly or monthly.  
• I believe very strongly in living a lifestyle significantly below your means - that means smaller house than you can afford, buying baby stuff at GoodWill or embracing bags of hand-me-downs, cook at home more than you eat out. When we have dual income, that means, we still live as if there's only a single income coming in.  
• In our marriage, I have happily given him full CFO/Chief Investor reign of everything regarding our assets and finances.  I really trust him (as I should).  And, we're both happier this way.
• Previous to our marriage, I managed it in 6 month to 12 month chunks at a time - investing (well) takes work.  When the S&P500 did its thing 2001 - 2006, I rode that all the way up, and a lot of it down.  I threw in a whole bunch into Gold, Gold Miners, Commodities, Apple (of course), and some death stocks (I think I was too early).  Cashed out on Apple when it doubled (~$40 to ~$88) to buy my first home.  In hindsight, oh man I should have held onto Apple.  Cashed out on MSFT at $24.10 too, because it was not moving year after year (back then).  Man I should have held onto that too.  Shoulda. Woulda. Coulda.
• I spend from time to time on myself (less than 5 times a year).  I spend mostly on family happiness (gifts, photos, experiences), or donating to charitable causes (mostly at gala auctions and events).  My husband calls me the family "social worker".

Smile.  

I'm tracking a few different stocks and companies now.  We've been mentally placing bets on companies (or with angel checks) since 2012, and have learned A LOT.  I'll write up the summary of learning in another post.  Now I'm taking those principles and applying it back to the stock market - and with that, I've placed a bet on BYND.  In at ~$80 on BYND, and today it's up to ~$166.  Not bad, huh?  I'm playing 1-5 year ranges now (versus the 6-12 month ranges I had done previously).  In hindsight, I should have put more in when I did - shoulda, woulda, coulda.

Ah well.  Proud owner of BYND.

Sharing, because sharing is caring.  :). 

​Arry 

This is a blog post to... warm up my blogging self again.  It's really hard to start something again after dropping the ball for so long.  I am trying to pick the ball up again.  

​Smile.

I look at our growing family, now with two amazing little babies (technically, one is a toddler). Never say "never" is the lesson.  To think I was adamant with my (at the time) soon to be husband that I did not want children is crazy.  Never say "never".  I did not know what I was saying.  Of course, it's hard - sleep deprivation, mess everywhere, our home has been invaded with kids' items and baby gear.  Giving birth is hard - 36 hour labor with Lentil, and an unplanned c-section with complications with Quinoa.  Feeding them (or convincing them to eat healthy) is a constant negotiation exercise.  

On the other hand, I'm probably a better human for it (than if I hadn't been lucky to have had our children).  I see the miracle of life, the blessing that life is, and have far more empathy for how babies grow up to be people.  Probably, most of the troubles we have in our lifetimes are because of how someone was or wasn't wired properly based on who the parents were, on top of all the emotional baggage we collect as adults.  That about sums it up.  To fix some of the biggest world problems, be pro-human and make sure that the world's babies are brought up with love and the proper nutrition, from birth.  How can we prioritize that globally as one human race? 

​Seriously.

Lentil is our toddler, full of passion, curiosity, energy and zeal.  He loves to learn, sing, dance, anything art/creative, help in the kitchen, and most definitely, anything red with four wheels on it.  I'm sitting in his bedroom right now as I write - smelling his toddler smells and smiling. 

Quinoa is our newest addition and now barely over a month old.  He arrived, after being breached (twice), and a failed second attempt at a versioning, via c-section.  I'm mostly recovered from the c-section and its following complications now, as I'm now starting to worry about my vanity and how I am going to lose the extra baby weight (15 pounds to go).    

Dae keeps referring to himself as "grandpa-dad" - mostly because he'll be about 70 years old when our kid(s) graduate college.  :). I refer to Dae as "Benjamin Button" because he looks seemingly younger and younger each year that goes by.

Life's truest blessings is family and friends,
Arry

Hello, everyone! 

I'm sitting here, in the jury duty waiting room with a lot of quiet time.  I forgot to bring my book that I've been reading - so, decided what better time than now to get back into my blog.  Lots to catch up on and so many learnings to share.  The biggest update is that as of the end of September 2018, I am no longer with Storm.  Yes, so it's been about three months since then, and I've been working on focusing my full attention on what matters most in life.

Life tip: You can tell a lot about a person's values by 1) what they spend most of their time on and 2) what they spend most of their money on, and the 3) kinds of friends a person associates with closely.  It's very telling.  

October, November, December Summary 
(Not necessarily in any order): 

1. TIME WITH FAMILY - This is one of the biggest most important part of my life that knowingly and willingly I did not spend enough time with over the past several years.  I'm lucky in that I have a full family, my husband and extended family that was willing to jump onboard to do all that they could to enable me to go out and be in the trenches of startup life.  I'm now daily able to cook for my family, sometimes more than three meals a day.  I get to talk more often with my husband.  One thing is that even while living with a spouse, it's easy to get caught up in life and forget to really connect - so we've been coming up with creative ways to really connect regularly.  We've been solidifying our relationship even more these days.  I get to have quality time with our tot, who is just so full of joy and wonder.  Watching him and being a part of his life is simply the most amazing creative experience I have ever been through.  It's very difficult - and it is so rewarding too.  Nothing worthwhile comes easy.​​
2. HOME OPERATIONS - Last week, to spend the week putting up family photos of all the love and memories we've created together was so refreshing.  I even enjoy laundry these days - particularly doing the laundry of our tot.  Folding his little shirts and pants melts my heart.  I had no idea that as a mom, I would love smelling him and his scent so much.  Intoxicating with love.  My next project is to start the cleanse before our next baby miracle arrives in April 2019.  Cleanse the home of unnecessary items and donate away.
3. RECLAIM MY HEALTH - Over the past couple of years, my health got worse and worse, and worse.  The bottom of my health woes happened in March 2018 to June, 2018.  In June, especially with my birthday and turning another year older, I decided that enough was enough.  An example of what can happen to your body under extreme stress over a long period of time?  Head to toe psoriasis.  Yes.  Head to toe.  Psoriasis.  Personally, to understand how shocking this was for me, is to know that I've been so very lucky to literally have had a handful pimples my entire life (of almost 40 years).  No skin issues ever.  Since then, I've been watching my food intake, getting enough sleep, drinking a lot more water and then some.  I've even done the phototherapy sessions three times a week, changed all of my shampoos, conditioners, soaps, and topical lotions head to toe.  Life changing.  It's only now, more than 10 months since my health plummeted that I've been able to get the psoriasis under control (and I'm one of the lucky ones to be able to do that.)  Side note: once I decided in June that "enough was enough" and that I had to get my health back, shortly after in July we were able to finally miraculously conceive our second child.  It's amazing what can happen with the mind is in sync with the heart and body.
4. COOKING - Not having cooked regularly for years has been draining for me, and my family.  My husband appreciates this language of love, the act of service - and I know it means a lot to him.  While perhaps the modern "feminist" woman may not believe in cooking any more, I am in the camp that to be a truly whole human in this life experience, knowing how to curate, cultivate, and cook your food from start to finish is a really important piece of knowledge that can only better the quality of life for me and my family.  I'm not the best - with continued intentional practice, I know I'll get better and better, and better.
5. GARDENING GOALS - Speaking of which, gardening is not my forte. At all.  I have always had a brown thumb.  Guaranteed.  It has bothered me - and so, one of my life goals right now is to experiment, iterate, and learn to find my green thumb.  I started with this basil plant (it's struggling, but still alive after a few months now).  I'm now on to green onions.  I'm now thinking about adopting an indoor house plant - one of those NSA approved plants that help detoxify the indoor home air like the spider plant or peace lily.  Practice makes perfect.  
6. READING BOOKS - I used to read 1-2 books minimum a week.  I completely fell off the book wagon the past few years and it's been a shame of mine.  My husband will attest, that my book backlog however has continued to grow as my book acquisition habits are still going very strong.  I'm happy to downsize on dresses, shoes, whatever - my books, I will haul them box by box to whatever home I reside in.  Each year consistently, buying books is where I continue to spend.  Kindle still doesn't do it for me - I need to smell, the crackle, and feel of a real book in my hands when I read.
7. SEEING FRIENDS - As we all go through different life stages and chapters, I've noticed friends come and go.  Mostly go off to the side to focus on having a family, or rather, surviving.  This change that we go through as we field life stages used to really bother me - now, I hold on less tightly and assume that the friendship will outlast all the craziness of life.  Made peace.  Now it's literally letting people that are important to me know that I'm here, and that I am thinking of them. Sometimes, the stars of various schedules/ timing have allowed us to meet in person recently.
8. STEALTH PROJECT(S) - This is taking up a lot of time.  A lot of time.  Some parts of it are great because I'm meeting some very interesting new people and disciplines.  Some parts of it are amazing because I get to reconnect with some of the most brilliant minds I've ever known in hopes of working together again soon.  Some of it is trying to wrangle up enough of the right kind of energy to push a ball forward into the light.
9. WTIA BLOCKCHAIN COUNCIL - This also takes up a bit of time, and it's worth it.  Humans do what we do, we tend to work in silos and we each want to be the owners/leaders fighting for the same principles in many ways.  The Blockchain space is no different.  The Council is about: 1) bringing those of influence together to lift Seattle to be one of the great global hubs for blockchain technology.  It only makes sense when you think about Seattle as being the cloud capital (with AWS/Azure), enterprises, technology talent, and more.  The Council is also about 2) helping bring about awareness and educating the general masses about blockchain.  The current dialogue is wrong in that blockchain equals bitcoin which equals evil and money laundering.  We can change that, together --> and together, we shall rise.  
10. MENTORING & SERVICE - Something I will always do until I die.  My husband calls me the "social worker" who can't help it.  I want to help others, I want to bring people together, and I want to do good.  I've been that way since I've been very young.  I can't help it.  Mentoring students at the University of Washington, working with other female founders of the Female Founders Alliance and Ready Set Raise, meeting founders at Galvanize, and more.  It's always great for me to stay fresh in learning about how other founders and entrepreneurs think and the problems they are working to solve.

Okay - that's the update in a nutshell.  More updates to come.

​--Arry 

Quick note to let everyone know:

As of 730AM PST, Monday, September 24, 2018, I am no longer part of Storm.  It's official and  three months has passed by.  I'll write more in the new year about what I've been up to - in the meantime, lots of cooking, reading, and spending time with family.

Thanks!
​Arry

• The Democrats are now back in control of the House of Representatives, bring a semi-sense of balance back to our political landscape.  And we have women, people of diverse backgrounds getting seats at the table in this mid-term election.  Maybe we can start working together.  Maybe we can unclog our ears and listen more.
• In October, 2018, California became the first state to enact a law that makes it mandatory to have at least one woman on Corporate boards.  (LINK)  This is huge - and begins the shift of influence, power and wealth in corporate America.
• Amy Nelson of the Riveter (and I'm a huge fan of her work as an example of this trend) is making major traction for her new kind of coworking space. Yes, if co-working is the present and the future, then the work space should not be a frat house.  (LINK)  We'll see more and more of this kind of work space - and I'm really glad that we'll actually start having work spaces that make sense for all human beings, not just bros and dudes.
• We have so many women taking leading, powerful roles across entertainment.  It's awesome.  A Star is Born, Wonder Woman, and so many great titles portray women that are heroes, fighters, warriors, and so much more than the 2-dimensional one that only exists to bare children and serve dinner.
• Financial sector along with corporate governance models are being shaken up thanks to this brilliant opportunity that is opening up with blockchain, cryptocurrencies, Initial Coin Offerings (ICOs), together with the push of GDPR.  We've only seen the beginning of what the future looks like when it comes to the topics of data security, privacy, governance, accessibility, usability, and beyond.  2017, 2018, and I predict, 2019 and 2020 - the world as we know it is being rewritten through policies, regulations, governance, and people rethinking what really makes sense in this new digital realm we already live in.  

Jotting down and sharing some quick high level thoughts from the intensity of today.  It is a very monumental place in time we are sitting today - and I'm so thankful for the opportunity to be alive and a part of it.

--Arry