Getting married to my husband is and was one of the best decisions I've ever made. He is the strongest, most patient, most kind person I know - and he is doting, endearing, and devoted to me. We've been married a few years now and I say, it's been some of my absolute best years alive. Who would have known? I was so adamant that I would never ever marry, let alone a Korean man - and here we are.
Prior to 2011, I remember thinking I knew what a good relationship was. I remember thinking I knew what I wanted in a marriage... and I know that I was mostly wrong. What I've learned so far is that marriage is way more than height, looks, his salary, his fashion sense, his education level, ... all of that is not what makes or breaks the marriage. What I've learned is that it really is about the core values of the other person. How did I know that this was THE guy to marry for me?
To me, all of his actions, so consistent, said more than he needed to. I saw (and still see) a man who believes in integrity, has great work ethic, loves to learn and try new things, does what he says he'll do, and says what he will actually do. The integrity/loyalty is really important to me too. I'm a new-feminist (meaning women and men are equal, but different), and just adore it when a man is chivalrous. It helps that my husband has a good southern upbringing (North Carolina).
Yes... I'm still smitten when I talk about my husband. I hope to never stop... even at our 10 years... 20 years... and 50 years together, forever. Having a marriage and partnership like this is like being at the top of life.