For several months before we got married, Dae and I were in an intensive premarital program with our church. Intense. This meant a couple hours of class, followed by an hour of small group sessions, and 1:1 sessions with the minister. We also had weekly homework to do each individually, in which we also had to get together weekly to go over our homework together. Some of those questions were very thought provoking, and some of those questions got in deep ruffling up old forgotten wounds that may have gotten shoved under the rug for a few years. One of the questions that comes to mind that really raised an eyebrow was, "if you take away all of the romantic feelings, the emotions, the physical attraction, the love, all of that -- would you still like the person you want to marry?" Wow - interesting huh?
One of the classes we attended during our premarital program was a break out of the men from the women - and in my women-only class, the class leader, Jen, talked about the 8 A's of marriage, taken from her reading of Feminine Appeal by Carolyn Mahane plus the addition of her own 4 A's of marriage. So I'm going to basically regurgitate what I learned from her (with my two cents put in):
The 8 A's of Marriage for Women: