the rules are changing for women (and men)

I'm a sucker for TED.  As I've gotten older, I also prefer the company of women for friends. In my career, most of my colleagues have been men - recently as I had the opportunity to venture out on my own (until this past week), I've had the opportunity to choose women to be my clients and colleagues.  Here's a summary of my thoughts from my past... 5 years:

The rules for women (and men) are changing:
Liza touches some interesting points.  Back in the day, say children born in the 1960s and earlier, life was different.  Boys became men by having muscles, working on cars, and being the protectors and providers...  Girls became women by wearing pink and dresses, taking home economics, and learning to bake and the art of being sweet and soft.  Now - it's different.  Boys are taught to be politically correct and sensitive, and to put away their toy guns and trade them in for art.  Girls are told that they must compete and take on as much education as possible.  Statistics say more women then men are graduating from universities and graduate programs now.  Feminism has empowered women - we can do so much, own property, vote, get PhD's, and be the boss.

Take that to the world of relationships:
With men being more "sensitive" and less "manly", in the rough and gruff sense - and women being more "strong" and less "passive"...  we know that the world of men and women are at a crossroads now.  We're learning to re-learn and also create new rules to live and work by.  Both partake in household duties, men cook, women bring home the "bacon", ...  so how do we maintain that sweet polarity and necessary tension between a man and a woman when we are so similar to each other? 

I don't know.  I'm working on that list. 

How can I be my best: as a woman, as a colleague, as a girlfriend/wife, as a mother, as a leader, and as a follower?  I don't want to be known as pink - I want to be red, burgundy, fuchsia and plum.  I don't want to choose between having a family or a successful career - I want both: my future amazing sexy husband and adorable wizard children with my kickass career at the top of a socially conscious very profitable company.  I don't want to be known as the bitch at work - I want to be friendly, genuine and strong.  ...  I WANT IT ALL.