since it's official only when facebook says so...

Facebook: where it ain't official until it's official there

My beau, Dae, and I have been seeing other pretty seriously for about five months now.  I've got quite a funny update to share with you: two days ago we decided to make it really official - on Facebook.  Yes, Facebook.  On August 14, 2011, Dae and I coordinated our efforts and updated our relationship status to "in a relationship with Arry/Dae".  We updated our Facebook profile pictures to a favorite photo of each other together, too.  It was a scary, silly, and serendipitously happy moment in our courtship together. 

Until a few months ago, I had actually forgotten that my default status of "single" was up there in my profile - and was reminded of it after getting quite a few questions about that.  Dae didn't have any relationship status visible to his Facebook network - and maybe his network/friends just don't notice these things.  I don't know what it is - are people just nosy, are people just very interested, or is this really important?  I was reluctant at first to admit it... but the Facebook thing bothered me as an annoyance...  Then I felt a little stupid about it, and the more I thought about it, the more important it became that I be open and transparent about our relationship - I wanted to tell the world.  After-all, I am proud to be in a relationship with this awesome man.

We decided to sit on it for a little while we continued to grow closer together - our relationship is interesting in that there are so many aspects about it that feel so right and natural - and there are so many aspects about it that we consciously, intentionally do to be "crystal" clear as we don't want to assume/take each other for granted.  I've been wearing the banner of "I'm independent, strong and single" for years now.  My Facebook status has said "single" for years - because surprising or not, I haven't been with anyone in recent years where I felt the desire to change it, ever.  Those relationships obviously didn't last...  And now, I'm in this awesome relationship that has been truly wonderful - both in the fun we have together and in the ways that this relationship has stretched me to grow.  I want to be a better person and I feel challenged.  I am happy.  Silly or not, we made an intentional decision to act together to make our relationship "official" on Facebook.  It feels good to be on the same "page" as Dae.

Yes, so... it's official now for absolute positive reals now.  See screenshot above - that's the proof.  Facebook says so.  :)

xo,
Arry